Jornal de Cindy Thompson, 30 jan 11

Cindy, I have a sister in law that is the same way! We can't phone my brother unless it's important because she don't like it! She just likes him all to himself and don't see how it hurts others! We have learnt to live with it and my brother will phone us once in a blue moon from work or if she is not around! Less hassle for him that way! Just concentrate on what a great time you had with them and know they are not trying to hurt you!  

I will do that my friend. Sorry that your brother is put in that position too. I will concentrate on the great visit we had with them. Things will work out.  

I can't understand it myself to be honest! If you phone them they have the hump and we have been told to not phone at certain times just incase one of them are sleeping during the day! We have to not phone incase they are eating and not phone incase they are busy with the kids! That leaves us about 3 minutes to phone but you have to be lucky with the times! Lol  

I understand. Nate works the night shift so he sleeps during the day and the baby and his wife sleep at night. On the weekends Nate stays up to be with his wife and the baby during the day. That is why I called him yesterday morning because I knew they would be awake. How would anyone know what three minutes of the day to call? Lol 

What ever three minutes you choose will be the wrong three minutes believe me! My brother does not have that excuse as they don't work nights and the kids are all at school age! The funny thing is they don't care what time they phone us! Even have called really late at night before! But they expect us to accept that!  

Well they say you get to pick your friends but not your family. I really do love my family. 

I'm going to get some rest now. 

Enjoy your rest cindy! I'm in bed as well hoping to drop off but it's not happening for me!  

Good morning Cindy, hope your day goes well. I am hoping to get back on track as I feel yucky eating badly. Just so glad you didn't eat badly, so you won't feel like me today..Love and Hugs.. I hate your son's wife feels that kind of jealousy. Its not fair to him or you.. 

hey cindy, just know that YOU are loved, and all the wifey is hurting in the long run is gonna be herself...this kinda thing happens in many fams every where...but you will always be his Ma ... she cant take that away from you...^_^ sending happy thoughts and blessings too..keep on keeping on and doing for you, dont let her get to you and force you to feel like hurting ur own progress..just keep giving her enuff rope and she'll do the rest all on her own..^_^ bet!! xxx 

Good morning, dear Cindy!!! I am so sorry that your DIL feels that way. My SIL was like that with her children the whole time they were growing up...if they spent any time with us at all, we were "Trying to steal her children from her." And she was like that with all her family, not just us. It was bizarre. She has said more than once that people are trying to steal her children and they are grown, 38 and 34. It is sad because the children moved as far as they could get from her in each direction. On is in Florida and the other in California, and she has no one to blame for that but herself! Has your son tried telling his wife that you love them, he loves you, and that you calling is not a threat to her? Sorry, Cindy, I just wish that I knew a way for you to fix this. HUGS, dear sister!!! Have a great Sunday and safe trip home! 

Good Morning Cindy buddy! You have been giving me words of encouragement so it is my turn:)...We know that nothing is impossible with God, so let's pray constantly for God to soften your daughter-n-law's heart and for your heart to stay soft for when that time happens. Great job not giving in to your old food comforting habits!! Sometimes a walk can help. 

Just woke up from a little nap and saw all of your wonderful comments in my journal. Thanks for stopping by Leanne, Bren, Darlene, Stef, and Doozy. My son is the one who is probably feeling the worst about this, so, I'll keep praying and will not let my heart become hard. I really thought that when we just visited that it would make a difference with my daughter in law. I will give her more time. At least we got to visit and we saw our granddaughter for the first time. She is such a cutie! She is the one in my avitar for those who didn't know. Her name is Simone and she is almost 6 months old. I am blessed to take care of my other granddaughter Olivia who is 20 months old and soon she will have a sibling too. So I will focus on the positives. Love ya'll and Hugs{{{}}} 

hi cindy, hope you're having a better sunday after your little nap. maybe when you call next time you can speak with your DIL - if her family doesn't care to call her maybe showing her some love & phone time will make her feel better. i don't know, just a thought. enjoy being with your husband today :) 

Your daughter-in-law must be really afraid and insecure to try to keep your son from you. It was the same way with my nephew's wife for the fist couple of years of their marriage. They moved away from her family in the Midwest to the Northwest where my nephew has a very large extended family. We're kind of like that My Big Fat Greek Wedding family, except we would be roasting a cow on the lawn instead of a lamb. She was from a very small family whose relationships were very distant and strained. His wife didn't want to be around us much for the first couple of years - too overwhelming I guess. We gave them their space, and eventually after much praying, she realized we weren't going to eat her. WE all get along fine now. 

Cindy just remember to ask God to give you the courage to change the things you can change and the courage to accept the things you cannot change. Just remember your brother has to chose his battles it sounds like.  

Lots of deep breaths and yes water! 

Thanks Sophie, Runesinger, Heyhon, and Gizmonel! Just got back from church and the minister preached on discouragement. Just what I needed. This quote is something I wrote down..."God, you are the one who can change this situation." Whatever the situation is...God is always there if we will call on him. Also, in Sunday school our teacher used the scripture...Isaiah 26:3,4 You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind is stayed on You. So trust in the Lord (commit yourself to Him, lean on Him, hope confidently in Him) forever, for the Lord God is an everlasting Rock (the Rock of Ages). This post was to remind me of what God can do if I completely trust him. Thank you to all my buddies who have encouraged me also. Have a great Sunday everybody. Love and Hugs{{{}}} 

Jealousy is a strange thing, and it really can tear a family apart. 

Thank you Fledgist! Hope you are doing well. Have a great day buddy!