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I have given serious thought to the days earlier questions I posed for myself & am happy to say I believe I have been able to answer them quite honestly. Any other way would prove my efforts futile in gaining me the life I so desire & thus be a waste of my time.
(1) WHY do I let myself become side-tracked? I don't *keep alert* to my needs & wants.
(2) WHAT do I allow to side-track me? I let others needs & wants over-ride my needs & wants.
(3) The Common Denominator in the above answers are: MY Focus! Only the needs & wants change & when they do so does MY Focus.(PROOF: Action FOLLOWS Thought)
(4) Theme in MY life? Yes. With WHO? Those I care about,specifically my S.D. & FIL. For HOW LONG? Nearing 5 yrs with S.D. & this past year with FIL.
(5) Keeper? Yes but not under the terms "as is". The "cost"(my needs & wants)is more than I'm *willing* to pay.
STEPS WILLING & PREPARED TO MOVE INTO ACTION TO GET THE LIFE *I* WANT:
Negotiations with S.D.-There are others S.D. can rely on besides me .For instance Bro,SOF,G.D.'s Friends.
While S.D. is "in need" a rotating shift can be set up so the "need" doesn't fall to the care of just one person. With the help of ones listed above it would only take a day from each of them & free me from all but 2 days in the week.Love is not a burden but when one takes on responsibilities not their own,for an extended period of time & adds them to their own,it can become difficult to bear.
Negotiations with FIL-Original Agreement:Help Until You Get Back On Your Feet carries the *implication* that YOU will be working toward doing things on your own again as we do what we can to aid YOU in doing that for YOURSELF,*not* WE be at your beck & call by taking on the roles (that you are capable of doing yourself) of: Cook,Waiter,HouseKeeper,Laundress,Taxi-Driver,Pharmasist,Physical Therapist,Personal Shopper,Daily Visitor,& that's just mentioning my "load" not my hubbys!
If I am *expected* to continue in *these* aspects of "help" that YOU "feel like you are up to doing" then I *expect* to be paid for each job that I perform. When YOU feel my hubbys & my "services" are no longer needed in your behalf,we will be happy to get on with our own life. Which was our "deal" in the first place.We love one another but it's obvious we all feel taken advantage of.
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1695 kcal
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Líp: 59,64g | Prot: 62,47g | Carbs : 233,84g.
Almoço: Unsalted Butter Stick, Oroweat Whole Grain 100% Whole Wheat Bread, Old Wisconsin Turkey Snack Bites, Dijon Mustard, Garlic, Regina Fine Red Wine Vinegar, Athenos Natural Crumbled Feta Cheese, Diamond of California Chopped Walnuts, Heartland Whole Wheat Rotini, Realemon 100% Natural Strength Lemon Juice from Concentrate, Tap Water. Jantar: Skim or Nonfat Milk (Calcium Fortified), Malt-O-Meal Frosted Flakes. mais...
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