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Here I am back at my goal weight. Cheers~
I should be proud and delighted.
I should be.
Instead, I spent the night with a very important loved one telling me my obsession with fitness was unhealthy. I spent the night fending off accusations of being manic and judgmental about wellness despite my fitness being a goal because I want a long life with said loved one and my son. Despite assurances that I have reached my goal weight and will adjust to a maintenance routine, I was lambasted as neglecting more important things and being self-absorbed.
It is a universal truth widely known that when someone makes positive changes in her life, those around her must adjust. Yes, this can make them uncomfortable or require self-reflection they didn't ask for. Yet, I'm not imposing my perspectives, choices, or positive habits on anyone. I indulge in normal activities, foods, and choices because that's what life is about, and I believe in balance. I've done the therapy. I know the warning signs to watch out for in unhealthy choices.
This is not that.
This moment is full of the sadness and sense of futility that once paralyzed me. It wears me down to keep going through various life challenges over which I have no control. We live in hard times, and others have it so much harder than me.So, Much. Harder. Digging for the strength to keep moving forward in wellness. Summoning my mother's love and wisdom to propel me on because he right can carry me. My light can carry me if I stand tall.
Does anyone else feel like the energy it takes to stand tall is more than one has left inside> Despite all of the love one has for family, friends, and the world? When she's doing everything right and still getting teeth kicked in metaphorically? I can take it, but jeez. Im kind of exhausted.
Ramble. Whine. Ramble some more. Whine some more.
You all inspire me and remind me of what it's about. I'll stay focused on that. I'll be my best me. Would like a pass from having to be a gladiator just for a day. Anyone seen one fo those passes laying around? If so, please tell me where to find one.
Cheers to goal weight. Cheers to wellness. Don't give up the good fight out there.
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60,3 kg
Perdidos até agora: 10,4 kg .
Ainda faltam: 0,9 kg .
Dieta cumprida: Razoavelmente Bem.
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1130 kcal
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Líp: 27,44g | Prot: 73,80g | Carbs : 163,98g.
Pequeno Almoço: Carrots, Bananas, Peach, Chobani Nonfat Vanilla Greek Yogurt, Blueberries, Flaxseed Seeds, Orange Juice, Nature's Bounty Fiber Gummies, Coffee with Milk and Sugar. Almoço: Kroger Deli Thin Sliced Roast Beef, Hummus, Naturally Good Kosher Provolone Cheese, Lettuce, Arnold Bakery Light 100% Whole Wheat Bread. Jantar: Whole Foods Market Roasted Tomato Basil Soup. Snacks/Outros: Clif Bar Builder's Bar - Chocolate Mint. mais...
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1940 kcal
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Exercício:
Musculação (Moderado) - 30 minutos, Caminhar (Rápido) - 6,5/kph - 1 hora e 14 minutos, Descansar - 14 horas e 16 minutos, Dormir - 8 horas. mais...
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A Perder 3,2 kg por Semana
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Its heartbreaking when family members don't treat your success' in life positively. Or try to wear you down with negativity. I hope your new lifestyle continues to bring you health and joy. Even if you cant share it with them. That's why FS is great, everyone on this site has been so helpful and kind. People here are nicer to me than my own family. I love it!
16 set 21 por membro: BeauxS
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Across the board people say ridiculous things. Like when I was hugely obese a doctor telling me I needed to eat more, or co-workers after I had a life threatening event repeated encouraging me to have a piece of cake “one piece won’t hurt you”.
Just change out the concept of food with drugs or alcohol - would people every say to an alcoholic “you are just too obsessed with not drinking”?
Why do we give weight to people that don’t know our truth in regards to core issues in our life?
You have learned a great deal. Time to learn how to ask hard questions in return. “Why do you feel you have a right to control my body?” Or just know inside and say “I’m surprise you would say that” - there stop engaging and walk away.
16 set 21 por membro: SparkKG
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first and foremost, congratulations on achieving your goals. it's okay to be proud and congratulate yourself.
second, (and perhaps I'm playing the devil's advocate here) have you talked to your important loved one about his or her feelings? It's not uncommon for a partner or loved one to project their fears onto their partner. perhaps they're afraid of losing you once you're thin and fit. perhaps they're wishing they had your willpower. maybe they think they won't be worthy of the new, accomplished you. but, you won't know for sure if you don't talk to each other. if you and your loved one really think you're important to the other, you should be able to talk to each other. you shouldn't feel defensive. remind your loved one that you want to be healthy to be around for him or her for a long, long time.
hang in there!
16 set 21 por membro: C8ZKatLady
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Don't let anyone steal your joy! Don't let anyone steal your wonderful feeling of accomplishment! Don't let anyone steal a moment of your pride in a job well done! Keep it up! You are great!
17 set 21 por membro: simplydelighted
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Congrats on your success 👏🥳🍾
17 set 21 por membro: ACBelle
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My own life lesson. The ones closest are the ones capable of hurting you the most. New goal. Don't let them. I love them, but I no longer give them the power to hurt me. Easier said than done. It's a WIP.
17 set 21 por membro: ACBelle
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The 2 most important people in my life never encouraged me. I confront them now and ask why can't they just be supportive. They don't apologize, but I know they are sorry and they would change if they could.
17 set 21 por membro: ACBelle
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I've made some amazing strides in my life with my humble background. I would never know how capable I was if I didn't have friends. I have my strengths & weaknesses. I'm still growing, very slowly. I'm a late bloomer with growth spurts.
You should know how amazing you are. Look at what you've achieved in that short period of time. Cheers.
17 set 21 por membro: ACBelle
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Your love one may want the same but needs help with it. If you don't have the energy to focus on him (that's ok), maybe a professional nutritionist can kick start his journey. I spent the last 3 years researching & booking specialist to help hubs & myself b/c I can't do it without help.
17 set 21 por membro: ACBelle
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You have to do," YOU" first , Lately I'm in same boat !!!
17 set 21 por membro: DO N OK
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Heart to heart conversation. Ask the tough question, “why are you not celebrating in my success”? My feeling is they are threatened by you new found freedom of taking care of you. Unfortunately, I have dealt with this in my first marriage. I grew and he did not like it. Because I was young, I just ignored and went my way, which ended in divorce. Open conversation and communication. CONGRATULATIONS on your journey and success. Keep going but have that heart to heart.
17 set 21 por membro: Marleelee
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Comments by loved ones and friends smacks of jealousy. You have every right to seek a healthy you. Others have even tried to undermine my good intentions on losing weight and it makes me feel terrible; however, I'm bull headed and push aside their comments because it is, after all, all about me and you should feel the same. Onward and upward to what you want to be!
17 set 21 por membro: lourock1
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This is a safe place to vent! Congratulations on getting back to goal weighty! Maintenance can be tricky because we think we are finished. You seem to be at a very reasonable goal weight and if your family and friends can’t accept that, then know that we affirm you here on FS. Stay the course, and congratulations again!🎉🎉🎉
17 set 21 por membro: LISfifty
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Jennifer as a young 20 something year old I lost my chubby fat and hit my goal weight, 135lbs, it was so much hardwork and I felt uncertain about myself as many young people do. I had a close love one pull me aside and tell me I looked sickly and (paraphrasing) had lost my beautiful features because of the weight loss. I was so dejected and gained the weight back and a wholeeeeee lot more. I wish I could go back in time and speak to young me, and tell myself the truth that you can and should never try to please people, focus on pleasing God. I have no doubt that person thought they were doing me good and it doesn't matter what they thought, what mattered is that their opinion and love mattered to me more than I mattered to me, a sad place to be. Praise God I've grown so much since then, and would laugh at that type of a scolding now, not even gonna engage that type of discussion. Jennifer this is your life, stay strong and remember we are seeking good health not just a number on a scale, sending you hugs and love💞💞💞💞.
17 set 21 por membro: Daughter of the_King
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Congrats on hitting goal Jennifer 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
17 set 21 por membro: Daughter of the_King
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CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR SUCCESS!
17 set 21 por membro: zoebony
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Congratulations on reaching your goal weight. I have had my share of people trying to sabotage me trying to get my weight down over the years. Losing weight is a struggle for me. I get the one night or weekend splurge won’t hurt you. Or you don’t need to lose weight your just fine right where you’re at.
I know my body and when I do lose the weight, my body and mind feel so much better.
You know where you want to be a healthier person, and my guess is that they are afraid of change.
17 set 21 por membro: smtowngirl
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