I'm sorry this happened to you. Please don't take it personally. I would look for more local groups that are not just about dating. How about a local walking group, or organization that does that sort of socializing. Good Luck on your journey, don't let this stop you from making friends.
11 jan 23 por membro: Little Red Fox
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And now we know how the slimeball was able to vacation in America. Good on you for sharing the scam. You are not at fault! You were victimized for a minute. By sharing your experience with others, you are Victorious! Forewarned is Forarmed. Blessings on you for sharing your experience!
11 jan 23 por membro: SLYONE 22
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Don't feel bad becasue for some reason there are a lot of people out there that only think of themselves and not care about how this affects others. We live in a tourist area full time and during high tourism at the local outside bars it is very common for people to share tables and meet people. Several times we have sat or others have sat with us to share a table and we have separate tickets but all of a sudden they leave and the waitress will be back by and ask where they went. They stiffed the waitress. At some of our small bars the waitress has to cover the tab then. We have offered to pay because most of these people we know being locals and the only thing we have suggested is that they tell management to get a credit card up front which more places are starting to do because of these circumstances.
11 jan 23 por membro: Redporchlady
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Look at it like this…. That was a blessing. What a jerk! It wasn’t you! I think he has done this before too. I know the struggle of being single and dating, have met nothing but creeps online, so I’m happy just doing my thing!
11 jan 23 por membro: QueenLaTiefel
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nothing wrong with you. it's him. he's a con, prey's on innocent. tough lesson. consider yourself lucky you are alive and well. I have learned lot of tough lessons in my life time too. you're smart, courageous and deserve better. take care of you. continue with us here, your weight loss journey if that's what you are doing. believe me, the small steps we make for ourselves daily are worth it. we're taking it a day at a time. celebrating our success together
11 jan 23 por membro: pardo_mary
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I can only say the same that most everyone else has. It had nothing to do with you, not the way you look, not the way you dress, nothing. He didn’t know you. He is a sick person who doesn’t see the humanity in people. Also, try not to be hard on yourself in thinking it was going well and that he liked you. That just means you’re a nice person who is open to opportunities. That’s a beautiful quality. 😁
11 jan 23 por membro: vanessa892
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At first I’m like slimeball! But then I’m like you just experienced a little piece of what being a man is like. There’s many that takes a girl out for a nice dinner n drinks then never hear from the girl again. Do ladies offer to pay for their half if they know they don’t like the guy? No they just let him pay for it
11 jan 23 por membro: Supergainz1
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Just a scammer. Keep your head up dating sucks but keep at it. It will get better. This horrible dating story will give you a laugh and let you know you are not alone. https://twitter.com/whatmaddness/status/1445899265696428032
11 jan 23 por membro: gabe526
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he's a grifter, has nothing to do with you. friend of mine got stuck paying for an expensive weekend. and supes, not all women do that. it's some, just like some guys. I hate having someone I don't know pay for stuff (except work situations) because it can create expectations. still take turns with BF after many, many years so the relationship stays balanced.
11 jan 23 por membro: Katsolo
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Ouch. DF is a very high crime city. Looks like he might be part of the bad crowd.
I met my best friend and wife online 12 years ago. This was back when there weren't 50 sites. We immediately connected and began spending all of our free time together. We got married after 15 months and I would marry her again everyday if I could.
We both went through a handful of people on the app before meeting eachother. So it might take some time to find that amazing person.
11 jan 23 por membro: TheUnhealthyDaddy
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I know not all women are like that Kat. But this “horror story” everyone is speaking of is what men has to go through in the dating world. Except a woman never has to pay for everything so rarely do this happens to woman.
Cindy you’re a smart woman. I’ve come to taking walks around a park or somewhere nice, pay for ice cream or a beverage as a first date. That way like you said, none is really forced to invest in more than the other plus it makes for a better 1st date anyway in my opinion. Dinner dates for me is like after sex now 😂
11 jan 23 por membro: Supergainz1
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oh jeez, funny not funny.... :( he's just a scammer asshole and you were his mark. it's in the past now, and you did enjoy his company, you paid for a bit of entertainment. it's ok to let it go and move on. years and years and years ago my best friend and business partner said to me, "there are assassins everywhere, everyone is an assassin"... I know that sounds bleak, but the truth is, we are basically all equally good and equally evil, with some a little more to each side. the chances of meeting a bad one are pretty high. it wasn't you. don't give up, life is too good!
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I am so sorry about your online dating experience! Dating in general is pretty tough. I met a great man recently when I had a flat tire and absolutely no cash on me. I never carry cash, always my debit card or I use Apple Pay. I’m sharing this to let you know that we meet great people when we least expect it! I have a little one to protect so I had to pay to run a background check on him and all has been very well! Because my child was with me of course they have met already. He’s from Mexico City too! I’m in the US though. Just take that experience as a lesson learned, I promise you destiny works in funny ways. I was stressed, a huge mess, in sweats no makeup on and my hair was a mess, and I had no cash and was stranded with a flat tire and an upset/tired kid with me. The last thing on my mind was dating but he’s been wonderful and has met my entire family because of the way we met my father and stepdad were on their way to help me lol. Keep your head up!
11 jan 23 por membro: Yelizzle
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I love your story, Yelizzle. that is the way life happens sometimes.
11 jan 23 por membro: Katsolo
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Hi! It’s not you. There are people that do this; serial daters who abuse the person’s trust. See if you can report this person to the app, let them know what happened. It maybe they have a policy about situations like this. They might cancel /remove them from the app so they don’t continue to abuse others. Take it as an experience, shrug it off smile, and continue to date. You’re now wiser. 😉🤗
11 jan 23 por membro: Mona524
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Don't be disheartened. xx My first date back in the game the guy shows up, stinking terribly of bad teeth (from 2 yards away) and after we met I took the dog for a walk, leaving my phone at home because I like to be mindful and present for dogwalking; when I get home my phone's been blown up buy this guy going from 'how was the date' to 'you bee eye tee sea aitch you're a player, you've been stringing me along, &%^#% you'. So that was a lucky escape, right? I did in the end meet someone who was just right for me. Just right for me. was wonderful.
11 jan 23 por membro: Bubbles McBubble
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Supergainz i'm married now but when I was meeting men off dating sites I always met them in a public place like a park during the day so it was free or if we had to meet at night a cheap place like subway or something like that and I always offered to pay for my meal. Just telling you not all girls are out to get an expensive meal from guys. I met my share of creeps on dating sites but didn't really know where else to meet people.
11 jan 23 por membro: Sara7200
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It is super generolus of you to share, nothing like feeling in good company. I once tripped over myself to pick up a check (like a reflex of being generous with a good friend) with this a-hole internet blind date. Blechk. That guy sounds like a turd, he did you a favor...he evaporated. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
11 jan 23 por membro: FatastiqueFatidique
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And as Mona524 says above, there are lists for guys like that, where women report who to watch out for.
11 jan 23 por membro: FatastiqueFatidique
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red flag. he could have paid bill with card. glad loser left. sure u had to pay. but it could have been worse. pretty cheap for lesson.
11 jan 23 por membro: gloriabrame
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